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Wedding Expenses | Mary Biever | One Writing Mother

Wedding Expenses

Photo courtesy of Michael Gray Photography

So the Kardashian wedding of the century has ended in a split. Truly a sad time for all involved…it would be wonderful if they could find a way to make it work.

As I heard the news, I thought about wedding expenses. A $10 million wedding that lasts 72 days means each day of wedded bliss cost them $138,888.89.

Then I thought back to my own wedding 20 years ago. Richard and I paid for our wedding ourselves, were extremely frugal, and spent $4,000. My Excel spreadsheet tells me that each day of our wedded bliss (and the not so blissful days too) costs 54 cents. If we make it another 20 years, the cost will be 27 cents for each day of our marriage.

I’ve gotta say it was worth 54 cents a day and then some. Most days.

We were fortunate and frugal with our wedding plans: I found the exact dress I had wanted to order on a clearance rack in a southern Illinois store that sold farm implements and wedding apparel. One of my cousins, a florist, gave us our flowers as a wedding present. My sister, a hairdresser, did my hair. Another cousin, a cake decorator, gave us a substantial discount on our wedding cake. Richard’s company got us discounted prices on wedding invitations. We held our reception in the church reception hall and asked friends to help with the serving/cleanup of foods at the reception.

Often, weddings calculate a cost per person attending the wedding. I wonder if it might be wiser to calculate the cost over time instead. In looking back at our wedding, the one thing I would do differently is have a sit down meal instead of hot and cold appetizers. But that is hindsight.

With 2 teens in high school, I sincerely hope I don’t have to think about wedding planning for a long, long time. But when we do, I’ll probably mention to them that if there is something – like a sit down dinner – that they will look back on in 20 years and wish they had had – that we try to think of ways to make it happen.

And I will strongly encourage them to spend as much time working on building the relationship, the marriage, as they do on the wedding ceremony and reception.



One Response to “Wedding Expenses”

  1. Dave Holland November 1, 2011 at 10:41 am #

    I was blessed enough to be at their wedding. As they have has their challenges, they pull through each time they become a stronger, closer and a more powerful couple. I’m also blessed enough to have them as friends throughout the years. One of the most important lessons that I have learned from their example is that when my wife and I work together towards a common goal, we can conquer anything. As simple as that sounds, it is not that easy but it is doable.

    Richard and Mary, congratulations on the 57 cents per day. I think that my last marriage cost only gas money…..

    God bless you!


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